A bruised reed he will not crush.

My personal scripture reading today included Job 5 & 6. In chapters 4 & 5 Job's "friend" Eliphaz, responds to Job's lament from chapter 4 (Job had many, many bad things happen to him and he was really hurting from them.) To summary what Eliphaz says, he reminds Job that God gives good things to good people and bad things to bad people, but if you repent from the bad things, he will give you good things again. The clear implication is that Job is suffering because of the bad things he must have done.

Now it is in general true that sin leads to suffering and that a righteous life produces better outcomes, so as a proverb about the general state of the world, Eliphaz is correct. God set the world up to be orderly and moral actions just like physical actions have consequences. But Job does not know of any specific or outward wrongs that he has done to justify the trauma that he is experiencing, so he responds.

He who withholds kindness from a friend

forsakes the fear of the Almighty. Job 6:14 

In other words, it is not kindness to rebuke a person in the midst of terrible suffering. Furthermore he asks,

Teach me, and I will be silent;

make me understand how I have gone astray. Job 6:24

If Eliphaz can point to a specific sin that Job should repent of then go ahead and do it. Job would gladly repent if it meant that it would ease his suffering. We learn from earlier in the book that repentance was a regular practice, so he would not even have resisted it. At the end of the book, when God challenges Job about his sin in questioning God, Job is willing to repent. But in this moment, Eliphaz is not aware of any sin, but rather he just makes a general accusation, which adds to Job's suffering. 

I have lived and ministered long enough now to have many instances of personal suffering and to have been with many others in their suffering. In the middle of painful situation, most people will not respond well to a rebuke, even if the suffering is directly related to their sin. They will either get very angry and defensive or they will get very depressed and withdraw. 

Jesus in quoting Isaiah says this about himself,

A bruised reed he will not break,

and a smoldering wick he will not quench,

until he brings justice to victory. Matthew 12:20 

When someone is already down, we need to be there, show that we care, and establish connection, otherwise they will not hear us when we have to come and talk to them about anything negative. We see this in Jesus's behavior toward sinners. He often approached people who were known sinners in his society, but if they were very repentant when they came, he treated them very gently, while still calling for them to turn away from sin.

On the other hand, I know that when suffering is related to sin, it is not loving the person well to never address the issue of their sin. So I am contemplating how should I approach people who are trapped in sin when they are suffering from the effects of that sin?

I think for me the first thing has to be making sure I establish connections and show people that I care. I also want to help the church understand this. We need to be a welcoming place to those who are hurting, even if their pain is caused by their own behavior. But we cannot be scared to speak the truth about sin and its consequences, and when we have established some relationship or when we are in long-term relationship already, then we need to be loving enough to confront sin even if that is painful

The apostle Paul did that with the Corinthians. He challenged some sin in their midst and it caused them some pain.

For even if I made you grieve with my letter, I do not regret it—though I did regret it, for I see that that letter grieved you, though only for a while. As it is, I rejoice, not because you were grieved, but because you were grieved into repenting. For you felt a godly grief, so that you suffered no loss through us.

For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death. 

2 Corinthians 7:8-10 

Here he distinguishes between wordly grief and godly grief. When someone is suffering the consequences of sin undoubtedly they will feel bad, but what we should desire is that it becomes a godly grief. A godly grief is not just feeling bad about the situation, but it is a pain that leads people to examine their life, discover the sin, and repent of that sin. His desire was that they use the opportunity of pain to repent of known sin (turn around and go the other way), so that they do not have to experience this pain again and so that they do not keep on causing pain and trouble for those around them.  

But for me actually knowing the right moment to talk to someone about sin in their life is very tricky. I suspect there is no one right way to do it, but rather that we need to remember some of the principles listed above and then treat each person and each situation uniquely. 

If you are reading this and are in pain due to hard situations in your life. I would encourage you to examine your life to see if there is sin for which you need to repent. God desires for you to come to Him. Jesus died for your sins, and His forgiveness is available. You may still face earthly consequences for your sin, but God wants you to come and receive His mercy, forgiveness, and love. The hard stuff is a form of God's mercy to let us know that we need to turn around and go another direction. He does not desire us to continue in painful behavior.

He can and does transform lives. No one is too far gone. His love is shown by tranforming people, and we find our ultimate joy in living in harmony with Him. Furthermore, when we allow Him to transform us, we also become the type of people that are good to those around us. 

Jesus says, "Come to me all you who are weary heavy laden and I will give you rest" Matthew 11:28.

What is in your Heart?

A few years ago there was an ad campaign that asked the question “what's in your wallet?” They wanted you to think about the difference between their credit card and other credit cards.   A similar question came to mind, as I was reading Ezekiel 14 recently. Here God challenges the leaders of Israel about the idols in their hearts. This was at a time when the nations around them might very well have had physical idols set up in their temples and homes. What God was asking the people to do was not just look on the outside, but also on the inside and ask the question, what's in your heart?

What kind of idols might they have had in their hearts? Well the nations around them worshipped idols that supposedly helped them in many physical areas, such as fertility, safety, success, good weather, and war. It is likely then that by idols in their hearts, God was talking about anything that they trusted in or desired more than Him.  For instance, if their joy in life was dependent upon being well-thought-of and seen as a success among their peers, then public opinion and success would be idols in their hearts.

If you're reading this, it's unlikely that you have physical idols set up in your house or where you go to worship.  But like the Jewish people in Ezekiel's day, and frankly all people throughout time, it is likely that you and I do make idols in our heart.  So I think it might be appropriate to ask ourselves what's in my heart? What am I trusting for happiness other than God?

The reason to examine our hearts for idols is because nothing and no one but the true God can ultimately fulfill us. This is one of the ways that we can examine our hearts, by looking for those areas of unfulfillment, dissatisfaction, and depression.  When we lack the joy and peace that God promises to those who trust him, it is likely because we are actually trusting in some false idol.  So I would encourage you to ask God to help you identify any items that may be idols of your heart. Sometimes even good things like family or hard work at a job can become idols if we make them the primary reason for living. 

If we ask God I believe he will help to reveal the idols of our hearts, And give us a new heart that is dedicated to Him. I believe we can take this promise from God as our own, "I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you" Ezekiel 36:26.

Meaningless, Meaningless!!

 

At a recent elder's meeting at our church, Mark Wallerstedt commented that he had been reading through the book of Ecclesiastes and that it was kind of depressing. I can understand why he says that, because a common refrain in the book is that everything is vanity or meaningless. The teacher cycles through a number of areas where he has tried to find meaning, including hard work, money, partying, women, and even wisdom. In the end, he concludes that everything under the sun is meaningless. Ultimately, you live and work here on earth but eventually, you die so what does it matter?

As I write this, I am currently preparing for two funerals for people who died relatively young so this is not an abstract concept for me. I am talking to their friends and family, and a question that commonly comes up at this time is did their lives have meaning? At the same time, it is good to ask ourselves, does my life have meaning? Eventually everything under the sun goes away including ourselves so what does it matter. I have seen many people come to funerals not just with great sorrow, but a depression because they are faced with the meaninglessness and hopelessness of their own lives. 

But I do not think that the teacher of Ecclesiastes intends us to end with this nihilistic (meaningless) understanding of life. Instead, he highlights the phrase "under the sun" to help us understand that if build our lives on anything that is simply material then it will go away. Therefore, we need to look above the sun or above the material world to the creator of the world for our purpose. Only when we understand ourselves and the world from God's perspective can we know that we were created for more than just this life. We were created for eternity with God. He desires us to live every day with an eternal purpose, knowing that no matter how easy or hard our life is right now, we can live with hope.

Jesus came to make the way for us to have that eternal life. He says, in John 5:24 "Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life. He does not come into judgment, but has passed from death to life." He came to die on our behalf so that we can have a restored relationship with God because our sin had separated us from Him. When we believe in Jesus as Savior and Lord, then all the aspects of our lives can be lived with an eternal purpose.

One of the people who died this week was my friend Ryann. Ryann died young from our perspective, but Ryann expressed very clearly to me that he believed in Jesus. Therefore, I believe that he is with Jesus now and has in fact passed from death to life. His life here was not meaningless, because he lived in such a way to point above the sun to the One who created everything and declared that is was very good. If you believe in Jesus as our Savior, you too can know that your life has eternal meaning. 

Where is home?

 

Where do you call home or perhaps more importantly, what do you call home.

Perhaps some of you identify home with the house where you grew up. You remember the sights, the sounds, the memories of Christmases, and games of hide and seek. Other perhaps think of home as your hometown. Home means your high school, festivals in the park, the county fair, parades, and the unique physical features, like the brick streets in every town around here. Since I did not grow up in just one single place, I have a couple of town and several houses that I remember, but none of them are really "home" to me.

For me, home meant people and really means people. My Mom made a house a home, and where Mom and Dad were, was home. So home for me was an apartment in the Chicago area, a trailer house in small town, a parsonage in another small town in western South Dakota, and even for awhile a parsonage in a North Dakota town 35 miles from the Canadian border. In a similar way, Traci, my wife, now makes a house a home. wherever Traci and my kids are is home.

I do not think this is a bad thing. God intends us to feel at home in special places where our people are. It can really help when your family and your community are close and welcoming because they create great memories. It is great to walk in the door of wherever you call home and be greeted by a big hug, or to come back into your home town and be greeted by name at the local diner by the table of old farmers meeting for coffee.  

As great as these things are though, they all go away. Your parents eventually die, as my Mom did last year. The old hometown changes and moves on or sometimes it dies too. Friends move away and move on. Frankly, even when you create the home for your kids, they grow up and move out (hopefully). That safe place of belonging is always changing and shifting, so where can we look to truly find home?

In John 14, Jesus deals with this question when He tells His disciples that He is going to prepare a place for them, that where He is, they can be also. Now this must have been somewhat unnerving for them, because He had become their home. He was with them right now, and yet He was telling them that He was going away. On the other hand, it was great news because He was letting them know that a better more permanent home was being prepared for them. A home that would not fade away and decay. A home where those you love will never die.

But, how does that help me now? Jesus has physically gone to heaven to make a place for His followers, but where is home right now? Where can I feel safe in a world where everything changes and storms constantly threaten to overwhelm me? Well, later in John 14 Jesus says, "And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees him nor knows him. You know him, for he dwells with you and will be in you." 

So for those who follow Jesus, His Spirit is with us wherever we go. In a very real sense, we are home wherever we go because Jesus is with us, and in another sense, we are waiting hopefully for our final perfect home. I would encourage you to come home to Jesus and to daily find your safety in Him so that when the storms of life come and all other homes crumble, you have a safe place to rest and hope that is secure for eternity.